This is something that has irritated me for quite a while.
Let me start by saying I am bisexual. I am physically attracted to both men and women. I would have sex with a man or a woman (provided love came first). I could be seen as straight or lesbian in the right circumstances, but when it comes down to it, I am bi.
All of my friends don’t mind, and I think that’s great. But some of them “don’t mind” for the wrong reasons.
I get this all the time. Oh, but my favorite:
“Your boyfriend doesn’t know how lucky he is to have a girl like you.”
[Actual quote from a friend of mine.]
My sexuality is being sexualized.
I get these comments from most of my guy friends. They talk of three-ways and crazy college lesbian experiences. They call my boyfriend a lucky sonnovabitch for having a girlfriend that’s bi, because I’d be willing to have a three-way, or more.
I most certainly am not.
I’m bi. That does NOT mean promiscuous. It does NOT mean slutty. It does NOT mean a slave to mine or anyone else’s sexual appetite. It does NOT imply anything about me or my personality. It DOES tell you that I like boys, and I like girls.
But I have a boyfriend.
I’ve been in a loving relationship for 2 and a half years now. I don’t want to be with anyone else but my boyfriend. I don’t want to have sex with anyone other than my boyfriend. I don’t want to do anything some of my guy friends think I should just because I’m bi.
And another thing. Guys think it’s hot when a girl is bi, but what about when a boy is? Then he becomes, as the same friend mentioned earlier put it, a fag. (I cringed just typing the letters.) Men think bi women are attractive because it opens the possibility of being with multiple women at once. For some reason, in the eyes of my naive acquaintances, a bi woman will have any kind of sex, because she is sexually attracted to everyone…?
I honestly cannot even process where they got these notions from. I don’t have that level of brain degeneration.
I don’t know. I usually try to make examples and connections in my posts, but I’m just too dumbfounded and downright pissed at this topic to be able to form coherent sentences. I can’t even think of good examples to put it into context, because this is just so nonsensical to me.
How people have / how I want people to react when they find out:
- -nods of acknowledgment-
- Oh that’s cool, I didn’t know!
- To each their own
- I kinda figured
How people have and how I never ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, EVER want people to react:
- That’s hot!
- Have you ever/would you have a three-way?
- Which one are you right now?
- Attention whore
Unfortunately the list goes on. Hopefully you see the difference though, right?
*This post is subject to editing. I’m pretty tired and I can’t think of much else to say, but I do feel like posting. Just because. In case anyone wants to give me ideas.